I #Voted Today!

i-voted 11.4.14

I performed my civic duty today, and though I managed to hit a traffic slump while I was there I certainly wasn’t voting alone. There were many voices in my ear while I made my voice and opinion count.

Here are some quotes about voting and democracy from some of my favorite politicians and advocates.

Hillary Clinton:

Source: Wikipedia
Source: Wikipedia


Voting is the most precious right of every citizen, and we have a moral obligation to ensure the integrity of our voting process.
[From BrainyQuote]



Elizabeth Warren:

Source: Wikipedia
Source: Wikipedia

“There is nobody in this country who got rich on their own. Nobody. You built a factory out there – good for you. But I want to be clear. You moved your goods to market on roads the rest of us paid for. You hired workers the rest of us paid to educate. You were safe in your factory because of police forces and fire forces that the rest of us paid for. You didn’t have to worry that marauding bands would come and seize everything at your factory… Now look. You built a factory and it turned into something terrific or a great idea – God bless! Keep a hunk of it. But part of the underlying social contract is you take a hunk of that and pay forward for the next kid who comes along.” [From Goodreads]

Nancy Pelosi:

Source: Wikipedia
Source: Wikipedia

Let’s just do what is right for the American people. And those of us who are involved in politics and government know that our responsibility is to the American people, that we have a responsibility to find our common ground, to seek it and to find it. [From BrainyQuote]



Ann Richards:

Source: Wikipedia
Source: Wikipedia


We’re not going to have the America that we want until we elect leaders who are going to tell the truth – not most days, but every day. [From BrainyQuote]




Cecile Richards:

Source: Wikipedia
Source: Wikipedia

“Getting rid of women’s health care access is bad policy and bad politics. But we’re seeing, unfortunately, in some of these state legislatures what is the residual impact of the tea party sweep in 2010. These politicians don’t care about women or whether these matters are on the minds of the American people….The thing that’s incredible to me — North Dakota being case in point — is the thought that women’s rights in this country depend on their ZIP code”… “There are now states where it’s not safe to be a woman. The whole danger of this move to say that these are just issues to be decided at state level is that somehow women and their doctors are going to be criminals in some states and have rights in others.” [From Huffington Post]


Whether we agree or not, I hope that you all got out and made your voices heard. That is one of the most beautiful things about our nation: we have the power to voice our opinions and directly take part in the governing of our nation.


Pop | “Lez” Be Funny

I love to make people laugh; the sound of unrestrained joy is something I could do just about anything to get, to hear. Because of my stage fright, I would probably consider myself a frustrated stand-up comic… I guess I’m more like an armchair comic, and it really only benefits the people who talk to me directly. Though, it never seems to work when I’m “trying” to be funny; setting up a joke usually makes me look like a chump. But when those one-liners come up all clandestine, taking me off-guard, then everyone is in for a show! Now, having said all of that, here are some lovely lesbians who make observational stand-up comedy look easy!

Julie Goldman, I first discovered her while browsing LOGO.com a couple years ago. I came across The Big Gay Sketch Show and was instantly smitten with the curly-haired brunette who apparently hadn’t been introduced to a hair brush. She’s physical, intelligent, and hilarious. Her timing is impeccable, and she always makes me double-over in laughter. From YouTube, here is a playlist of just a few of her highlights.

Tig Notaro, I had the delicious opportunity to see her live when she opened for Seth Meyers a couple years ago; it was a small gig for an even smaller venue within a student union on the University of Northern Iowa campus. I was toward the back of the room, no arena seating, and it was almost difficult to see and hear her. Once she stepped up to the mic, though, I was never going to forget her. When it isn’t the tone of her voice, her comedy is all wrapped up in her aptitude for observation and delivery. You can’t help but laugh, you just can’t. From YouTube, here’s a highlight reel of some of Tig’s best work.

Elvira Kurt, I discovered Elvira with the special I’ve linked to here from YouTube. It’s her Comedy Central Presents special. Her wit and sense of mother’s disappointment will keep you rolling across the floor. When she takes on her mother’s accent (and her guilt!), you won’t be able to control the laughter. These two videos are just the audio set to a static image of the comedian; so listen to them while you’re working–you won’t regret it. Well, only if your boss walks in! (From Paul Verheijen)


Upworthy | 21 Absurd Things Lesbians Say to Straight People

It’s always funny to see someone offer the world a dash of perspective. Of course, this is satire. Of course, this is sarcastic. Of course, if I had a dollar for each time I’ve been asked one of these questions I wouldn’t have to work again, ever.

I’m not frowning upon asking questions to get to know something about someone better; I think it’s important to maintain an open channel for asking questions when someone feels uncertain about something that’s presented. But several of the questions or observations pointed out in the video above are legitimate inquiries lesbians (and people who fall within the rest of the LGBT spectrum) face from well-intentioned (albeit misguidedly in the dark) straight people who just want to understand (and see clearly, maybe?) the differences from heterosexual relationships. The point here is that every relationship meets different expectations and needs for the people in it; no two relationships are the same no matter the orientation of the folks sharing it. However, some of those inquiries need to slink off into the dark: “Can I watch?”; “That isn’t real/natural sex.”; “I just don’t want to see it.”; and “You just haven’t met the right man/woman yet.”–I’m looking at you.

Pop | Smithsonian Continues Honoring LGBT History

On August 19, David Kohan and Max Mutchnik brought their mothers to the Smithsonian event honoring the inclusion of new gay, lesbian, and transgender artifacts into the American History Museum. Kohan and Mutchnick were there to donate Will & Grace memorabilia, which included the pilot’s screenplay and personal correspondence between the co-creators.

Mutchnick and Kohan decided to donate around 2012, after Joe Biden spoke to the press about the show’s social and cultural impact and his support for gay marriage. The items had been at Emerson College, where Mutchnick attended college, but the school was looking to move the collection. So Mutchnick and Kohan contacted Dwight Blocker Bowers, an entertianment curator at the American History Museum, who selected artifacts from those at Emerson. “They’re representative of all different things,” Kohan says of the items, including “combating hatred with humor.”

Other artifacts included in the event were: the first transgender pride flag designed by Monica Helms in 1999, a tennis racket owned by Renée Richards, costumes from the DC Cowboys Dance Company, and the diplomatic passports of David Huebner (first openly gay ambassador in the Obama administration) and his husband.

Source: Max Kutner for Smithsonianmag.com
Source: Max Kutner for Smithsonianmag.com

These treasured artifacts will be joining ranks with a tennis dress that belonged to Billie Jean King, protest signs from the gay civil rights movement, and lab equipment related to HIV and AIDS. You can read more about the event right from Smithsonian Magazine online.

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Books | The Witness Wore Red

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Source: “To Read”
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I just finished reading The Witness Wore Red, and Rebecca Musser is probably one of my new heroes! Expect a full-length review soon at my editing blog here. Click the title’s link to pick up your own copy at Amazon. That just happens to be my digital book store of choice. I would suggest checking it out from your public library–that’s where I got mine–and then go here to purchase a signed copy. An email is provided to contact about cost reduction if you plan on multiple signed-copy purchases.


A Response to the Definitive Guide to Celebrity Feminism of 2013

Coming from Huffington Post, writer Lauren Duca compiled the best feminism moments of 2013. And while I totally agree with the moments she’s chosen, what bothers me the most is a woman’s hesitation to admit or claim the feminist label.

How can a woman in today’s world NOT be a feminist. Even if the word breaks down to being an ultra-militant, anti-male bitch. So what? Don’t men have it coming? For rape, abuse, and overall assumed authority over those which have no penis – don’t they deserve it? Just a little?

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Pop Stars and the Miseducation of Feminism | Valerie Tejeda

Valerie Tejeda at Huffington Post outlines feminism in much the same way I would. I do believe in feminism and its importance to the world. What I don’t believe is that women are better for believing that they have to be one thing or another. Valerie articulates well how important it is to remember the true tenets of feminism are equality for, respect for, and support of each other.

Pop Stars and the Miseducation of Feminism | Valerie Tejeda.

Discussing Words That Describe Our Bodies | Everyday Feminism

Lovely article from Everyday Feminism (clicky-click below for fullness) about how we select the language we use to describe our looks to others. The words Fat, Curvy, BBW, and Plush are discussed here.

In my life, the word “fat” was the enemy. Bullies and jerks used it to make me feel small and make me feel bad for looking differently than the others. It was what I called myself when the back of my arm jiggled in a fond greeting, or how I saw myself when my friends got hit on in bars, at dances and I didn’t. It was the only difference between us (that I could discern then), and so it must have been the real reason.

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Is the “fat acceptance” movement losing? |Salon

Salon poses the question based on a Tweet, which you can see in the article linked below, from a “New York Times media critic”–whose name I won’t mention here–that made a snide comment regarding “the size” of acceptance Paula Deen was receiving from fans of hers patronizing her Georgia-based restaurant. Not to mention, the American Medical Association’s steps taken toward calling obesity a disease–Salon’s theme here is how easy it is now to “fat shame” and call out people’s weight–in a joking manner–while disguised as “concern” for the person’s health.

While there is a viable argument against calling obesity a disease, based on producing more of a prejudice where there already is one, that isn’t my problem in this case.

Why is it “safe” or “still safe” or “easy” at all to shame anyone????

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Emme Interview on Labels, Career Advice, and Daughter|Yahoo! omg!

Not only a beautiful model, but a role model to boot! Nice little article covering an interview with Emme, famous model, where she discusses a brief incident of discrimination from a “top photographer” who spoke clearly out of line. But her advice, when faced with blatant prejudice, “if you give up, then you don’t make a point.” Ain’t it the truth?

Discussing career choices led to talk of Emme’s 11-year-old daughter whom she wants to keep off the catwalk, but is taking a shine to acting. Emme wants her girl to have a childhood that she’ll really enjoy! Follow the link for the full article.

Emme Talks Weight Discrimination, Daughter’s Acting Plans & ‘Plus-Sized’ Label: It’s ‘Derogatory’ – Yahoo! omg!.

Teen Feminist Quickly Becomes My Hero

Hannah Weintraub is a no-holds-barred kind of girl, and I wish I could have known her in high school. Hell, I kind of want to know her now. She’s taking on the patriarchy and not taking any prisoners. Women are entitled to agency and choice over their bodies regardless of age, orientation, or any other kind of label society insists on slapping on us (then, insist we like them!). Hopefully, Hannah has lots of friends and they are all smart enough to take advice from her! Follow the link for the whole article.

Teen Feminist to Obama: “Don’t Patronize Me!” | xoJane.

Reblog | To Bitch About Pitch (Perfect)

Reblogged at FatFemmeFantasm. Much love! 😀

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Elle Says:

Ah, the classic turf war, Romeo and Juliet style. Except with the humor spin.  Bring It On meets  Step Up meets Twilight. (Sorry, Anna Kendrick, but that’s where everyone first noticed you, in the “classic” turf war over the supernatural superiority of a vampire/werewolf, over the hotly disputed, high-profile land of Forks, WA, over the brilliance and vivacity of Bella/Kristen Stewart (everyone reads that sarcasm, right?  Just wanted to be sure)).

I’m talking about Pitch Perfect, the new movie musical comedy about college a capella turf wars, which opens nationwide today.  It stars Anna Kendrick and features the lovely – and hilarious – Rebel Wilson. I’ve only seen the trailer, but what I’ve seen is a depiction of a plus size woman as the funny fat girl.  And aren’t we tired of that already?  Let’s delve in.

The Plastic: “What’s your name?”
Amy: “Fat Amy.”

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Bra Fit Event at Lane Bryant!!!

Every woman worries about how they look and feel inside their clothing. At every size, in every culture. That feeling starts with what a woman is wearing under her clothing. I didn’t realize this until after my very first bra fitting.

It was several years ago–in fact, I should probably go back and get resized–and I was shopping with my then-girlfriend at my very first Lane Bryant store. I hadn’t realized I had walked in on their Bra Fit Event, and I happened to be standing in the lingerie section. The sales lady approached me very nicely, asked if I was looking for anything in particular, and–jokingly–I’d responded:

“If you could find me a bra that actually fit, I might shop here forever.”

She chuckled, informed me of their promotion (which included what is now my favorite BOGO half-off sale), and offered to measure me.

This is what the titular event is all about, getting measured to determine the perfect fit in your most important undergarment.

You can stand, just like I did, in the aisle looking at the dressing rooms, raise your arms to shoulder level, and let a sales associate get up-close-and-personal with the size of your rib cage. She’ll ask you what your current sizes are (number and cup size), and smile kindly as she tells you what you should be wearing.

Let me just tell you, I was in the ballpark, but everything ended up in the strike zone. So, bold with information, I stepped back up to the plate and purchased two bras in the size the nice lady suggested. One white, one black, and they changed my outlook on bras completely. I haven’t bought a bra from any other store (without suffering for it) since that day.

Store Locator | Lane Bryant.

Find a store in your location, or if you already have a favorite shop, and check to see if they are offering the Bra Fit Event on the 28, 29, and 30th of this month.

If you haven’t done this already, put it in your two-week plan. It will be the first step toward actually feeling comfortable in your clothes!